Soo Askmen.com publishes an article, lets say more like a powerpoint presentation: Top 10: Ways To Make Women Chase You.
Ok, this is not meant to male bash by any means, but you really need to ask a woman and not a man. Lets start off by pointing out that every female is different. Not one woman is the same, and what may work for one may not work for the other.
Let us run through the steps (their step; my solution):
#10: MAKE A MAGNETIC FIRST IMPRESSION
There is no right way to make a good first impression. My suggestion, BE YOU! Nothing more, nothing less. If a female cannot accept you for who you are she isn't worth the time, vice versa.
#9: BE A CHALLENGE
Very true, but I don't like their explanation. My definition of being a challenge is to hold out on sex. If she throws herself at you, hold back. I know its tempting, but it will pay off. Women do not like feeling rejected, so do not, I say DO NOT, make her feel rejected, lets say, lets be more of a tease, at that point her mind will run wild. If you really want to intensify the situation, get her real hot and bothered, foreplay for a little while, then STOP! There is nothing like a man who is a tease, the temptation is a killer. Sorry females =( I probably should have left this one out.
#8: ASK THE RIGHT QUESTION
Only suggestion her is to be/seem interested in who she is, what she does, interests, whatever. Listen. Be interested in something more than just yourself. It's so boring to hear guys drown on and on about themself. Don't get me wrong, do share intimate details of your life, just don't come off self absorbed.
#7: DON'T LINGER
I don't even know what they mean by this. If you know a woman is interested, make yourself present. If you have really good conversations, what the hell, call everyday. That way you'll stay embedded in her mind. And, another benefit is she will get in the habit of talking to you, to the point where it will feel unnatural or like something is missing in her daily routine. Just don't find yourself sitting on the phone with dead air. Remember what you don't do another guy will. It's 2011, who has time to play games. One thing to add, don't be so impatient. You have no idea what a woman has been through in life, some jump right in and others need time. Feel her out, find out what she wants. Say what you want, even if its just a sexual relationship for the time. Honesty goes a long way. Oh! And fellas, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE stop thinking that every woman who makes the decision to sleep with you right away is a ho (just means she knows what she wants); if the thought even crosses your mind well then I guess that makes you a ho too; 2011 No Double Standards. Different strokes for different folks.
#6: PAY ATTENTION THE RIGHT WAY
Hmmm. No comment. Thumbs up! Fyi: As for the gifts, catch 22. Some may want to ask: Is she really worth it? Is that a habit you want her to become accustomed to? I would say wait on any drastic gifts, (little things are cool) unless she's the type where you really have to step it up a couple notches (independent women, gotta love 'em). You need to know what type of female you're dealing with first and foremost, unless that's just the type of guy you are and you just don't care. I guess I did have a comment.
#5: GET INSIDE HER HEAD
Oooo this is a tough one. Yes, you should get inside her head, but this may or may not work depending on the female. This may or may not benefit you (fyi: crazy chicks). My advice: this one is up to you, but be very careful. You don't want to send the wrong message. She may take it as a blow off and just say to hell with you. She may become obsessed and start stalking you (did you see the new T-mobile commercial with the girl in the closet -- psycho). So lets just end this with, again, no games.
#4: TEST HER
Smh! Those questions are horrible questions. In my mind.... "Who are you to be asking me what makes me interesting, when you're the one trying to pursue me? Who does this guy think he is?" Automatic shutdown, whether she's one that points it out right there and then, or the type to gradually fade her way out and away from you. Sorry, but that statement comes off as if the 2nd party is desperate. Women don't want to be made as being desperate, especially when most aren't. (Whether you want to believe this or not, if there is a vagina, a penis always follows, or should I say lingers in the mist -- the power of the pussy). At that point, she may feel she has something to prove. You better hope and pray she really likes you, leaving you with either a hit or miss. Why don't you try this.... test her by disappearing for a little while. The mind will wander and actions speak louder than words.
#3: MASTER COCKY & FUNNY
Master funny, there's no need to be all cocky. Most women see right through the film (even the ones who play stupid).
#2: HOLD ON TO YOUR CARDS
Suspense and mystery is good. If she asks any questions, again, be honest. A lot of times men fail to realize that women are more accepting than you think (what is it a 1:10 ratio of men to women). When you've earned her trust, you've won the key. Not to mention, if you really want to hold the cards, once you sleep with her, make her orgasm, make her cum. A female does not stray to far from amazing sex. It's almost like the crack fiend effect.
#1: STOP DOING THE CHASING
This really goes both ways, but I ask, "If you don't chase, how will you ever get what you want? Who wants to be forced to settle?" Fact is, many females still are not comfortable with approaching me, or like myself, feel that a man should always approach a woman, especially in regards to random encounters. Bottom line, you have to weigh your options. Do what works best for you. If shes not interested, shes not interested, move on to the next there are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't think its you, everyone is at a different place in life, so you just never know whats on her mind unless she tells you (then again, I'm big for the Don't Ask, Don't Tell). My motto: "If it's meant to be, it can't not be, and that's pure destiny." So don't feel rejected, its probably for your own protection or benefit, which ever sounds better. If you want her that bad, then by all means chase. When there's a will there's a way. But remember patience and persistence is the key.
Let me sum this up by saying, maybe I give good advice, maybe I give the worst advice. Who knows??? Let me say this again. Every female is different, what may work for one may not work for the other, use your better judgment. Relax and your cards will fall into place = )
Please let me know your thoughts... if you hate it, like it, whatever.
